看过"sex and the city"吗？ charlotte asked the guy while they are having dinner in a resturant "why don't we get married?" the guy answered "all-righty". Why don't you ask your bf like charlotte did.

I would pay by myself---since you are working, it's llike one month salary,right?---be independent all the way through the marriage!
just in case something happened later between you two, no excuses for him or his family...

ask him his thought, do not mention marriage, just ask hie should you apply for this way, see what he says, you can also find out his thought on getting marry with you as well

If I were you, I would pay for myself.

如果你决定他就是你打算一起共度余生的人，女方开口求婚也未尝不可。否则就自己出钱。

to be honest, 8000 is not a small amount for me. I have to loan from my parents at this point. cannot afford it. of course the lawyer cannot take credit card. I just feel i have owed my parents too much. I know all of these are not good execuse for mentioning this to my bf. It is not the way how the marriage comes. To be honest, i believe it is just timing problem, we must get married sooner or later. If it is the case, I just wanna spend the money in some other way, which could be on our new house, our new car, for our kids.

[此贴子已经被作者于2004-11-17 15:33:50编辑过]

我觉得还是自己付吧