以下是引用bearhouse在2004-11-15 22:29:59的发言：
这种暧昧的朋友，你即使现在不进一步，也是不能持久的。当你有了你的他，你和这个他的这种关系还是会改变的。

如果你自己都不知道的话，是没有其他人能帮你作决定的。

如果是我的话，我会问自己有没有足够爱的力气去追求并维持这场long-distance的感情，有没有足够的精力去面对这个难以琢磨的人（会太辛苦吗？）。我会问自己如果被伤害的话，是否可以在以后的日子依旧相信爱，相信幸福。如果有一个答案是否定的话，那我会选择放弃更进一步的可能。是真正的放弃，从心里彻底的放弃。

以下是引用bluesimon在2004-11-15 20:51:23的发言：
"I am guessing because you two are afraid that it won't work out and you two cannot be this close friends any more."
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ this is exactly what i'm afraid of.
" Ask your own heart."
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~i really don't know. otherwiese i wouldn't have come here and told you my story.

以下是引用bearhouse在2004-11-15 20:25:15的发言：
if both of you are still single and available, why not go one step ahead? I am guessing because you two are afraid that it won't work out and you two cannot be this close friends any more. There is trade-off. The question is which one you value more, a long-lasting friendship or a possible love with this guy.
Ask your own heart.

以下是引用mkgirl在2004-11-15 22:34:16的发言：
If you really know him, you should understand what he is thinking now.

Distance is definitely a big problem. I mean, in this situation, I don't think he can do much
except saying loving you once in a while. What else can he do? You guys were not together,
so even talking everyday will be a little too much...

以下是引用layala在2004-11-15 19:30:17的发言：
不太明白美眉在说什么？初恋啊？你得钓着他，怎么能让他钓你胃口呢？[em11]