你BF是白人罢？他们有时候不一定能理解你对钱和对身份的理解。
所以我建议还是别提了，你那么年轻急着结婚做什么呢？
8000刀说少不少，说多也真的不算多，咬咬牙就出来来。
你觉得结婚是早晚的事情，可有些人就觉得早点不如晚点的好，
所以作为女方而且又有这个利益关系在里面你要是push了是很不明智的。
当然你们两个要是很亲密到有亲情的感觉了你100%对他有把握而不是80%什么的
那就当我那些话没说过。

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你bf知道这件事吗？其实如果两个人感情火候到了，结不结婚，因为什么契机结婚都不重要。不过会跟个人喜好有关。如果是我，我不愿意因为这件事结婚，因为觉得我自己会介意。即使想结婚也不希望这就是结婚的导火索。但是如果双方都不会很介意，结婚也不错啊，8000块省下来可以干好多事呢。不过无论如何还是觉得应该把8000块钱这件事告诉你bf一声，不是为了探听他的态度，伴侣之间生活大事本来就该互相通报啊。如果不告诉他我觉得反而不好，弄不好让人家觉得你宁可吐血出8000块钱都不愿意跟他结婚。

I would consider paying by myself first. No matter what, it is my personal issue. And 8000 may seem
a lot at the first sight, but it is just a couple of months's salary and you have plenty of years
ahead to work...

You can surely let him know anyway and see how things go. But immgration is kinda a sensitive issue
and I would feel a little uncomforatble in either your or his position. I know this one guy and he
is married to an Australian girl. I didn't know him before so I was surprised that he got married
when he was only 24. He is an American and 24 is a little early for a guy to get married in this
country. Anyway, I asked one of his friends, and he told me they got married early because of the
green card issue of that girl. If I were that girl, I wouldn't like people to say that my marriage
was something I got on my way for something else. And I also have this girl friend in Shanghai.
She bought an apartment with her BF (now her LG) before they registered. They could have saved
a bunch of money if they got registered before they signed the contract, but they didn't, because they didn't really feel it was the time yet, although the apartment was for their
marriage... Their case is a little funny, but just say sometimes you have to wait for the right time no matter what,
especially for a marriage...

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谢谢大家这么都中肯的意见。看了大家的意见，加上一晚仔细考虑，我已经决定了。不要和他讲了也不让公司现在申请了。其实，结婚就是这一两年的事情，也完全是我们两个感情发展的必然。我现在不要让公司申请也不会就这样失去了以后申请的机会吧。结婚这件事情上不同一般，还是水到渠成的结果才最好。做了这个决定之后，才发现其实对他的信任和对于我们感情的信任远远超过了我预想。这样的决定，让我轻松了很多。对了，忘了和姐妹们分享，今天是我们的anniversary!

Congratulations for the anniversary!! :)

Keep me updated with your information...

Happy anniversary!

happy anniversay!!!

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happy anniversay!!!

自己决定了就好