oh, actually I do feel encouraged. I read this before I started job search and then I decided
that I want to do it. I think that article gives the truth and it admits that there are
discrimination or other difficulties particularly for women, but more importantly shows us a
way to deal with it. At the end of the article, it says: you have two choices, you either feel
victimized and feel like you can't possibly do it, or you get on business and make it happen.
That is the correct attitude to me. Yes, it's hard for anyone, male or female, to achieve
something great in their lives. Thus he/she has to give up something for it. So I sort of felt
relieved after I read it. It is simply a matter of choice.

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it is a matter of choice...the problem is at either end of the scale family and career
all weighs a ton...the old saying about fish and bear hand does go a long way,
because it is very hard to have both a family and a career for a woman...actually i
think all my problems go to the fact i wanted both at the same time in the
past...now i gradually realize i probably have to accept being satisfied with lesser
achievement, just as the article says...at the end of the day...having a supportive
and happy family gives me inner peace and sense of serenity...life has its
priorities...most people can only devote to a single task at a time...be it family or
career...if my perfect plan works out...a few years focusing more on child rearing
while maintaining a meager position with publications...are not too much a
setback...or...i wish...

[此贴子已经被作者于2004-11-3 15:13:03编辑过]

nod nod.

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支持



still cannot take house work & kid as my career

career is career, it will give me challenges and accomplishmens, not only money for clothes and cosmetics

i think it is more personal choice. You choose what is best for yourself and your family.

try your best to do what you can do.

如果路上时间太长,不如考虑找个离工作/学习地点进些的地方.夫妻两人不用天天都得见面把.这样一来,可以多些时间工作/学习,周末两人再一起聚聚,娱乐以下.

我也强烈支持JESSICAG的观点。夫妻之间总要有些牺牲，否则家庭团结，婚姻稳定，孩子的教育，很难面面俱到。事实上有几个把这些都处理地完美无缺？
我从前的大学班主任，算是女强人一个。可是做的很无奈。。。临近30，截然一身。名人手下做博士后。同学到单位给她分的房子里，空荡荡的。床，桌子，书架。冷嗽嗽的，没有一点人气。都说该给她送把花的。。[EM47][EM47][EM47]别人笑谈说，只有嫁洋人了。。现在估计还是单身。。
我宁愿做个快乐的家庭主妇，也不愿意一个人高高在上，除了钱，地位，名誉，其它什么都没有的女强人。[EM00]

两个人一起做好了，谁累了就少做一点，不累的多做一点。
以后经济好了，请个钟点工也不会很贵。
再说两个人能有多少事，无非做饭，刷碗，洗衣，收拾，倒垃圾，西地。
如果喜欢待家里的不妨留在家里，不过好歹大家一个个至少本科，硕士的，
除非自己喜欢，否则作HOUSEWIFE还是比较可惜巴。
而且从家庭稳健程度来说，偶觉得女生也不能完全依靠别人。

偶姨妈家从前比较有钱的，花钱很凶的，姨妈就是作HOUSEWIFE，带孩子，打打麻将。
比偶妈辛辛苦苦工作赚钱还要干家务好多了。
后来姨父身体不好，孩子小，姨妈就挺担心了。

以前偶外婆也是，后来外公文革处就被磨死了，外婆一个人带着3个孩子和她妈妈，吃了很多苦的。

如果一个家的经济等压力都在老公一个人身上，还是会累。
而且如果老公失业，伤病怎么办？如果是ENGINEER的话，很可能啊。

偶的想法是女生总能SUPPORT自己，必要时可以HELP to support family.

最好经济上能够老公作后盾，工作比较稳定，挣多点，偶少挣点，也能贴补贴补，给女儿交交什么钢琴费，买买花裙子什么。
偶没有后顾之忧，事业上尽量发展，反正8小时以内是公司的。也不必总加班拼命巴。如果不能很好发展，就混个温饱，如果经济不好，被LAYOFF，偶就回家自己开个小店或作个啥，反正作自己喜欢的事， 又能养活自己就够了。即使事业上能发展的好，家还是家，还是要的。
回家尽量不要把情绪带回家。有气有火不能对家人发，有问题可以和LG商量，两人主意多，有商有量反而增加感情啊。