If that is what you think about me, I am shocked. I invited my Chinese friends to my apt for dinner because I like to. And most of them are singles. They donot care about to cook for themselves. And my apt is fairly big enough to hold 8 or 9 people together for a nice meal and a good conversation for fun. If I want something back, I would have asked much much more than I have had.

Probably you havenot been here long enough. You havenot experienced some situation when you desperately need some help, you find you have nobody except yourself.

I never tried to please people for socialization. I donot have to. I am a student. Married. I am fine with my quite life.

I am angry because there is some misunderstanding. I was judged unfairly.

Just ask yourself, what would you do when you were in my situation?

Let's end the discussion.Donot get it too personal.

我刚到美国的时候，人生地不熟，遇到一些热心人的帮助。后来自己碰到有新生过来时，也积极主动地帮忙。并不是需要什么回报。这些人后来也都很少联系。人总要集点德。作些善事，都是本性。平常请朋友吃饭，玩，也没报什么目的，大家凑一堆热闹而已。如果我请的人都认为我将来要利用他们，这想得也太多了点吧？难道大家都是谁也不上谁家玩，怕利用和被利用吗？

我遇到的还是好人多。有很多人给过我很多帮助，还没来得及一一报答。我不会因为一次不痛快的遭遇，就觉得这个世界冰冷到了极点。对别人善良，宽容，能帮忙的不要袖手旁观。能自己做的事坚决不要麻烦别人。用平和的心态看世界。OVER。

大家继续讨论扩展社交圈的问题吧。我闪开了。