和我交往过的男朋友最大的也只是比我大6岁。不过和一个比我大12岁的dating过一次，等发现了对方的年龄之后就没有下文了。我想就我的心理接受能力来说，8岁是个界限吧。

可是还有人说了，男的平均寿命比女的短，两个人要白头到老，就不能男的比女的大太多



yes, average for chinese man is approx. 70, while chinese woman 73. it means if my ld dies at his 70, then i will have to go alone with myself for about 10 years. 55555555

it doesn't matter whether you are really mature or just FEEL like you are mature. the point is that love is part of subjective feeling. if you just FEEL that he/she is not mature enough for you, the relationship will fail. got it? hou hou.......

it doesn't matter whether you are really mature or just FEEL like you are mature. the point is that love is part of subjective feeling. if you just FEEL that he/she is not mature enough for you, the relationship will fail. got it? hou hou.......


那大家都认为比自己年龄大的就自然应该比自己成熟了？

NOD,NOD
以前还担心找个大十岁的会不会有代购
现在看下来是一点问题都没有,只要处理得当,两个人根本不会存在代购,有的时候象朋友,有的时候象兄妹,有的时候象恋人,难得他还得当几回小爸爸...
我BF的大哥前妻和他同岁,两个人老吵架,最后离婚了,现在这个比他小了整整20岁,感情好的一踏糊涂.他大哥很迁就女方.

agree, agree! 呵呵，大一点的bf好撒娇和耍点小脾气。哈哈。有时候他必须像爸爸一样的宽容。btw，我和比我小的甚至同龄的男生从来有不了成功的bf/gf relationship，总是没完没了的吵架，我总嫌人家幼稚。sorry

成熟不成熟不是关键
只要彼此在心理上有个依靠,年龄根本不是问题....

it doesn't matter whether you are really mature or just FEEL like you are mature. the point is that love is part of subjective feeling. if you just FEEL that he/she is not mature enough for you, the relationship will fail. got it? hou hou.......


那大家都认为比自己年龄大的就自然应该比自己成熟了？

偶能接受的:大 3-9岁

it doesn't matter whether you are really mature or just FEEL like you are mature. the point is that love is part of subjective feeling. if you just FEEL that he/she is not mature enough for you, the relationship will fail. got it? hou hou.......


那大家都认为比自己年龄大的就自然应该比自己成熟了？



not really. the fact is that 1) girls become mature earlier than guys, which is true according to bio science. 2) mostly girls prefer having their partners more mature than themselves.

therefore --> girls tend to look for man that are older than them.

that's the logic.

finally, it's not necessary that guys are more mature than girls that are younger than them. my ex-bf who is 10 years older than me is still very childish. i felt that he 's not mature or strong enough for me so that finally i dumped him.

为什么和自己一样大的, 就不能迁就? 而且迁就, 不可能总是单方面的. 这个主要不是因为年龄吧...