he still has feeling for you, I think.

say sorry to him if it's your fault, it's very possible that you two can reunion. He still cares you.

哇，都9个月拉！你做了什么叛逆的事，有什么大不了的啊

这个男的不成熟，好合好散，即使分手也应该说清楚，给对方足够的尊重。这人自己又是玩消失，又老在妹妹眼前身边晃来晃去，也许觉得这样可以报复回来？太幼稚了，这种人还是不要了吧。

Have you ever tried to apologize for what you done wrong 9 months ago? If you still care about him, and if you still love him, give both of you a chance... You never know whether he really feels as he behaves: maybe he is also hiding himself in front of you. Also, as outsiders, we have no clue about what you have done and how much that hurt him, so we cannot judge whether there is any chance at all -- but you should be able to tell and decide what to d maybe with your best friend's help.

If you think it's time to say goodbye, do it and bear the consequences. You will feel bad and hurt, especially when he is around. But that's the price for love -- people cannot grow without these pains in life. You will find your Mr. Right sooner or later, but do cherish him and cherish your love. Love is delicate and you need to "culture" it with all your heart. Don't ever try to hurt it: even once.

Good luck, hope you will be happy again soon!

谢谢jm们的关心，他是一个很孩子气的人，典型的双子座，的的确确，但也是一个及其聪明，很会算计的上海小男人，我已经不想对他做任何评价，怀恋他的好，只会让我伤心，数落他的不是，不是我做人的原则。

罢了，一切都已经过去，这一年，我经历了太多（失业＋失恋），任何挫折，我都不再惧怕。毕竟前面的路还很长，我自己的人生要靠我自己去谱写。对于感情，我不想再作任何期待和努力。剩下的，我会安心的读完phd，在坛子里灌水，贴图，和jm们探讨人生的其他乐趣。

谢谢大家