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从良贴之生孩子
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2005-03-04 09:21:00
是难啊,我结了婚之后一直都在想要孩子的事情,并不是着急生,只是想不明白怎么办。
我家父母年纪已大,如果坚持让他们来带孩子,肯定葬送了他二老的健康和晚年幸福。因为我妈妈将我姐姐的孩子带到5岁,已经落了一身的病。公公高血压,婆婆必须在身边照顾,也没发来。
我和老公说,不生就罢,生孩子就一定自己带。可是怎么带啊。
眼见着我就奔三十了,phd也快念完了。很多人都说,还是在学校的时候生个孩子好,这个问题越来越近了。
既然决定要生的,晚生不如早生哦。
在等一下,都我老公先找到个工作
Agree. I have worried a lot before the baby is born, now after I saw her smile, I forgot all the worries...
I was apart from husband before I got pregnant, then move to ld's place and work from home.
LD took care of me and cook for me, has some pressure for him during that period, and also I am preparing looking for a job locally....
GGPP got visa and Mom was denied.
Now I found a job here and GGPP took care of all the house work and baby...
My Baby is super easy to handle ... so it kindly make things easy and actually baby may need a little traning and if you know how to treat baby , it will be easy for the baby and the adults...
Mom will try the visa now, we are encouraging her to try till it works....
And I encourage my Mom by telling her that I paid all the expenses and also paid her money each month during her stay....Also I encourage her take a visit to Japan or Kerea and I would very like to pay for it......
She said she doesn't want my money and wants to see my baby but I know my Mom is old now and I am away and she is kindly care about having some money with her...though she can't spend half of her salary each month and has saving accounts and house and medical insurance and everything, (I am the only daughter of her and she won't spend much money, even if she got money from me I guess she still save it for me.)
Anyway I just can't bare leaving my baby , my GGPP has said that they can/will take her home if my Mom can't get the visa. But the little one seems like already recognize me though she is only 50 days old, If I am there, she will stop eating from her grandma's bottle and look at me or refuse the bottle.She falls into sleeping on me almost instantly while not so easy in her bassinet.I guess the warmth and smell make her feel safe...
Also after having my own baby, I feel it is not easy to bring up a baby. So now my feeling to my Mom has been changed, 养儿方知父母恩。如果我的BABY有事,偶决对会第一个冲过去。偶想偶妈妈也会这样。偶不敢保证将来偶绝对会让偶BABY对偶满意,可是偶会尽力作一个好妈妈。同时偶也谅解了偶妈妈,无论曾经或现在如何......偶想MM们作了妈妈也会和偶有一些一样的想法.....
我突然间想起了jami以前的一个帖子,很高兴你的心理现在能够原谅你的妈妈。你对宝宝的描述,真是让我好感动,我非常非常喜欢小孩子,经常幻想自己的孩子将来会是什么样子。
祝愿你的妈妈早日拿到签证
其实我是一直很想要宝宝的那种人, 在买东西的时候看到小孩子的东西就很开心. 我有个好朋友怀孕了, 还是不知道男孩女孩的时候我就买了很多公主裙, 后来知道是男孩, 只好去退了...
不过我一直吃治疗关节炎的药, 总是担心会对宝宝有影响...
老公总是说还没有ready, 其实生活在这里, 哪有什么真的ready的时候?
瓜子的心情我是最有感触。
比起别人,我有另一层的担心。偶的心脏脆弱,累的时候还偶尔疼痛。所以生孩子会不会把命送了?老公也担心的不得了。就算平安把孩子生下来,月子里没人照顾我,我可怎么办。带小宝宝那么累,我要是休息不好心脏可就难受了。哎,又祥林嫂了
生活在这里,哪有ready的时候,哪天我横下心来,坚决生一个
到底了
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