这种老师真的是极不负责，居然还有guts给家长发信。这件事如果是我会严肃的要求老师retract her accusation，另一方面我会教育自己的孩子never apologize for anything that you didn't do，虽然对孩子来说不容易，但是要学会stand up for yourself，哪怕是retention也不怕，mom has your back。

For your reference:

Adding Mr/Mrs. xx (principal's name) for awareness and complete transparency.

Dear Mrs. XX (teacher's name),

Hope you are well!

Thank you for bringing this incident into my attention. I've had a conversation with XX (kid's name) and now I have a clear understanding of what happened earlier today.

First of all, he thought this was a finders keepers situation and I already made sure he understands that anything and everything he finds in the classroom need to go back to the teacher and should never leave the classroom. However, with that said, "stealing" is an accusation that I can not take lightly to which I strongly disagree in such incident; It's extremely unfair and irresponsible to make such accusation against a 9 year-old without thorough investigation of the incident.

Second, he apologized not because he admitted that he took the candy on purpose, but because he was intimidated into apologizing. I also had the conversation with him about never apologizing for something he didn't do, especially when pressured by a grownup or person of authority.

This may be a small incident, the lasting impact on a 9 year-old can be tremendously detrimental. To make things right, I suggest that you retract the accusation of "stealing" and issue an apology. If there is anything further that you'd like to clarify, I would be more than happy to meet and discuss in person at your convenience.

Best regards,

XX