从长远的角度讲
做到工作的时候工作，回家之后把精力分给老公和家务
能够帮助你balance
尤其是做到不要觉得guilty
上班的时候想家务做少了没有好好照顾老公和孩子
回家了想没有全力工作同事们都很努力自己在做家务
这样子就不好了
学校里面很多女教授，尤其是tenure之前生了孩子的女教授
都是和我说因为要balance家庭所以刚开始工作时养成了很高的工作效率
虽然比男同事们花的时间少了很多，
但是很高的工作效率在孩子们大了之后使他们更加出色

培养起来挺难得，我想培养这么多年了，还是不怎么行，hoho
一起努力吧

i read the article..thanks~
but you call that encouraging?
ft ah...
work is work...it is so hard to do
tilghman is a great woman...she is so amazing
she is a single mother of two kids...yet she achived this much...
she used to say she even did not small-talk to colleagues
because she needed the time...
that is work is work...gosh...

it is a matter of choice...the problem is at either end of the scale family and career
all weighs a ton...the old saying about fish and bear hand does go a long way,
because it is very hard to have both a family and a career for a woman...actually i
think all my problems go to the fact i wanted both at the same time in the
past...now i gradually realize i probably have to accept being satisfied with lesser
achievement, just as the article says...at the end of the day...having a supportive
and happy family gives me inner peace and sense of serenity...life has its
priorities...most people can only devote to a single task at a time...be it family or
career...if my perfect plan works out...a few years focusing more on child rearing
while maintaining a meager position with publications...are not too much a
setback...or...i wish...

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