就是因为以后这个细胞会成为一个人叫自己妈妈的人，才不能随便生，因为增加的不只是一个“孩子”，而是对一个生命的责任。
lz你如果重来一次，生下第一个孩子，会对现在的生活有什么影响？如果有了那个你想象中的孩子，你还会有现在的这个可爱的活生生的孩子吗？你的工作、生活、婚姻都会发生什么变化？
你后悔的真正原因不是做了人流，而是因为那个决定太草率。如果是深思熟虑之后的决定，就不会后悔，因为即使重来一次，在同样的环境下，你还是会做出同样决定。
meaningful 发表于 1/21/2015 1:16:36 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=1767065&postid=66092550#66092550]

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The problem is NO one ask for her opinion here. She is soliciting her ideas

memoryrong 发表于 1/21/2015 1:22:55 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=1767065&postid=66092661#66092661]

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LZ's point is people would change their thinking/feeling when they get older, which is very true.
So before making any big decision, think about it back and forth, and think "10/20 years later would I regret for my decision?"
beibeicai 发表于 1/21/2015 1:29:00 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=1767065&postid=66092796#66092796]

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所以同理，别人看不惯lz的说辞也没有错

PearlKitty 发表于 1/21/2015 1:34:18 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=1767065&postid=66092902#66092902]

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No, you got me wrong. She has all the rights to say what she wants to say, however, she has not rights to ask others to do or not to do anything. Just like I said early, I would totally agree with her if she just simply shared her story, however the part gets me is "I wish.....others and so on...."

memoryrong 发表于 1/21/2015 1:45:51 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=1767065&postid=66093102#66093102]

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To be honest with you, I don't think any decisions are going to be easy in this matter. However, she is not in others shoes; she doesn't have to walk miles in other shoes either. It is quite mean to assume others decision of abortion come as easy. Why she has to press her guilty to others? Like I said, she is more than welcome to share her story but keep her opinion to herself.

memoryrong 发表于 1/21/2015 2:06:26 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=1767065&postid=66093432#66093432]

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虽然我赞成要三思，但是你用这么强的罪恶感和内疚感去绑架那些做abortion的女性，外加及其夸张的感情渲染，我觉得你很脑残！跟那些说你不信教，就要下地狱的极端分子，差别不大。
hideandseek 发表于 1/21/2015 3:33:23 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=1767065&postid=66095024#66095024]

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就是现在在中国小县城农村啥的，还有养不起娃，需要送人或者遗弃的，拼死拼活养娃的日子多半也过的很辛苦。在美国莫莫，黑人生一堆娃也很多养的很累，靠国家吃福利啥的。没看出来娃自带了饭票！或者说这句话的本意是，只有北美华人家庭生的娃才是自带饭票，其他国家地区的都没这技能？


huhubaba 发表于 1/21/2015 4:25:56 PM [url=http://forums.huaren.us/showtopic.aspx?topicid=1767065&postid=66095929#66095929]

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