以下是引用VOGUE在2004-11-22 12:19:08的发言：
Five month is not enough to know whether a person could be your husband. You guys should spend more time knowing each other before thanking about marriage

以下是引用tiantiandog在2004-11-22 12:33:45的发言：
Thank you for all ur suggestions. The jms in Huaren are really nice. I can not input Chinese now so sorry for that.
I really love my boyfriend. And i think he also love me. We really have good time together. He said he was scared to loose me. That is the reason he told me until now. But he did not wanna lie to me, so he tell me now. He hope me to forget this thing. He will take care of it. He will be responsible to it and he does not wanna me involve it. Although he does not have too much money, he just graduated from the university as a Bachelar, he will give me the best life and give me what i want. I believe what he said. But i think i still need some time to get familiar this reality that he has a daughter.

以下是引用gemstone在2004-11-22 13:00:49的发言：
不同意的说，觉得有教育的美国人还是很保守的，我上课的同学大都是young professional， 跟他们聊天的时侯觉得他们对家庭生活是很看重的，像什么电视上的东东，生活中很少见。

以下是引用superhero在2004-11-22 12:43:40的发言：
Spiderman 这个说得很好，省得偶再 type 了。

以下是引用homosapiens在2004-11-22 12:23:49的发言：
这个是有点MESSY, MM应该慎重. 话虽说是他对你的态度最重要, 但是他的这种情况确实是个很大隐患. 平时看看SPRINGER的SHOW, 发现美国的男女问题确实有一些很混乱,很NASTY的. 这时候就靠你的判断能力了. 不要全相信BF的话, 多从其他方面找线索来判断他的为人吧.

就象你很想进一个屋子, 但是里面可能有炸弹. 你只能靠自己来判断炸弹的真实性, 或者为了保平安, 干脆放弃进这个屋子的想法. 因为如果真的有人要炸你, 他肯定不会提前告诉你的. 其实人生很多时候是在赌博, 你就是那个GAMBLER.

以下是引用cod在2004-11-22 19:41:38的发言：
MM you have to forget about his words and think about his deeds.
Whatever he said. The fact is you are a victim of his deeds.
Remember to love youself first.
Now the situation is:
You have to pay for his fault (emotionally at least, financially in the future)
This will last for years and years.
You are innocent and shouldn't be responsible at all.
You don't have to get into this, you can get out.
There are better people waiting for you because you know better now.

Stay away from him for a while (5-7 days)
move out, cut off contacts,

Think

And you'll see.