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bluesimon
what does he really want?
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2004-11-15 19:25:00
on oct 25 i gave him a call, talked for about 3 minutes and we had no contact after that for almost three weeks. last night he suddenly called me again. we talked for a while and he asked me how i'd been recently. i didn't ask him what he was doing during the past 3 weeks, or why he didn't call me for such a long time. 10 minutes after the call, he sent me a text message, only three words "I love you". i don't know what does he really want.
no, not a keng.
just that our relation has been quite ai4 mei4 for a long time. i don't know what does he want from this relation, and i don't know what i want to get either.
it's like, we can be very close for a while, talk about everything, then no contact for a long time. then somehow we'll come together again as if nothing has happened. he's told me many times that he loves me and i've told him that i love him. but now i'm really confused what's my feeling toward him. there is a long distance between us, both physically and mentally.
just that our relation has been quite ai4 mei4 for a long time. i don't know what does he want from this relation, and i don't know what i want to get either.
it's like, we can be very close for a while, talk about everything, then no contact for a long time. then somehow we'll come together again as if nothing has happened. he's told me many times that he loves me and i've told him that i love him. but now i'm really confused what's my feeling toward him. there is a long distance between us, both physically and mentally.
actually i think we're the kind of friends who are very very important to each other, so important that sometimes you get confused what's really going on between you two. that's why i said ai4 mei4. we're friends -- i won't tell other people he's my bf and he won't tell other people i'm his gf -- but at the same time we're definitely more than just friends. inside, i think we both (maybe just me) want to go one step further, but don't have the courage to take real action. what if that one step further fails? also, as i said before: distance, distance...
以下是引用layala在2004-11-15 19:30:17的发言：
不太明白美眉在说什么？初恋啊？你得钓着他，怎么能让他钓你胃口呢？![]()
不太明白美眉在说什么？初恋啊？你得钓着他，怎么能让他钓你胃口呢？
how can you find out that?
there's a long distance between us. he's in china.
there's a long distance between us. he's in china.
以下是引用zhaorongrong在2004-11-15 19:36:18的发言：
你要搞明白他再什么情况下说出来的他爱你.是不是空虚寂寞的时候才会想起爱你这会事
你要搞明白他再什么情况下说出来的他爱你.是不是空虚寂寞的时候才会想起爱你这会事
i'm not sure if you have friends like this: you may not contact each other for a long time; you don't know where he/she is, how he/she has been, what he/she has been doing, etc. but some day when he/she finds you again, you'll put everything aside to help him/her, to accompany him/her. it's like not a single day has passed, because he/she resides deeply in your heart. and, you know he/she will do the same thing to you. just like the song: winter, spring, summer or fall, all you have to do is call... you've got a friend.
for most friends, i agree that if you don't contact each other very often, you'll gradually drift apart and become strangers.
for most friends, i agree that if you don't contact each other very often, you'll gradually drift apart and become strangers.
"I am guessing because you two are afraid that it won't work out and you two cannot be this close friends any more."
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ this is exactly what i'm afraid of.
" Ask your own heart."
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~i really don't know. otherwiese i wouldn't have come here and told you my story.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ this is exactly what i'm afraid of.
" Ask your own heart."
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~i really don't know. otherwiese i wouldn't have come here and told you my story.
以下是引用bearhouse在2004-11-15 20:25:15的发言：
if both of you are still single and available, why not go one step ahead? I am guessing because you two are afraid that it won't work out and you two cannot be this close friends any more. There is trade-off. The question is which one you value more, a long-lasting friendship or a possible love with this guy.
Ask your own heart.
if both of you are still single and available, why not go one step ahead? I am guessing because you two are afraid that it won't work out and you two cannot be this close friends any more. There is trade-off. The question is which one you value more, a long-lasting friendship or a possible love with this guy.
Ask your own heart.
[此贴子已经被作者于2004-11-15 20:52:40编辑过]
maybe you are right. i don't know.
distance is a big problem. i'm not sure about anything.
distance is a big problem. i'm not sure about anything.
以下是引用layala在2004-11-15 20:51:01的发言：
以下是引用bearhouse在2004-11-15 20:25:15的发言：
if both of you are still single and available, why not go one step ahead? I am guessing because you two are afraid that it won't work out and you two cannot be this close friends any more. There is trade-off. The question is which one you value more, a long-lasting friendship or a possible love with this guy.
Ask your own heart.
这不是把mm往火坑里推吗？那男的显然在钓鱼嘛。
当然，偶有时候是想的比较险恶一点
thank you.
以下是引用bearhouse在2004-11-15 22:29:59的发言：
这种暧昧的朋友，你即使现在不进一步，也是不能持久的。当你有了你的他，你和这个他的这种关系还是会改变的。
如果你自己都不知道的话，是没有其他人能帮你作决定的。
如果是我的话，我会问自己有没有足够爱的力气去追求并维持这场long-distance的感情，有没有足够的精力去面对这个难以琢磨的人（会太辛苦吗？）。我会问自己如果被伤害的话，是否可以在以后的日子依旧相信爱，相信幸福。如果有一个答案是否定的话，那我会选择放弃更进一步的可能。是真正的放弃，从心里彻底的放弃。
这种暧昧的朋友，你即使现在不进一步，也是不能持久的。当你有了你的他，你和这个他的这种关系还是会改变的。
如果你自己都不知道的话，是没有其他人能帮你作决定的。
如果是我的话，我会问自己有没有足够爱的力气去追求并维持这场long-distance的感情，有没有足够的精力去面对这个难以琢磨的人（会太辛苦吗？）。我会问自己如果被伤害的话，是否可以在以后的日子依旧相信爱，相信幸福。如果有一个答案是否定的话，那我会选择放弃更进一步的可能。是真正的放弃，从心里彻底的放弃。
以下是引用bluesimon在2004-11-15 20:51:23的发言：
"I am guessing because you two are afraid that it won't work out and you two cannot be this close friends any more."
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ this is exactly what i'm afraid of.
" Ask your own heart."
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~i really don't know. otherwiese i wouldn't have come here and told you my story.
以下是引用bearhouse在2004-11-15 20:25:15的发言：
if both of you are still single and available, why not go one step ahead? I am guessing because you two are afraid that it won't work out and you two cannot be this close friends any more. There is trade-off. The question is which one you value more, a long-lasting friendship or a possible love with this guy.
Ask your own heart.
[此贴子已经被作者于2004-11-15 20:52:40编辑过]
thanks a lot.
以下是引用mkgirl在2004-11-15 22:34:16的发言：
If you really know him, you should understand what he is thinking now.
Distance is definitely a big problem. I mean, in this situation, I don't think he can do much
except saying loving you once in a while. What else can he do? You guys were not together,
so even talking everyday will be a little too much...
If you really know him, you should understand what he is thinking now.
Distance is definitely a big problem. I mean, in this situation, I don't think he can do much
except saying loving you once in a while. What else can he do? You guys were not together,
so even talking everyday will be a little too much...
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