I also post it on Xin You Qian Qian Jie. Just want to hear more advice.

my current program is out of rank 25.

The new one is at top 1.
At least, we will seperate for 3 years with almost 5 hours drive.

We had planned to get together after my hubby graduates and find a postdoc near me. But this is not so sure right now.

But now, I think, after graduation from top 1 school, I can find a jov relatively easily, and have a better chance to get a job near my husband.

My husband, at the beginning, asked to graduate as soon as possible, namely 4 years here. And then, take a postdoc in a better lab in my field and go out for jobhunting. But, he isnot against if I go to the new one. He asked to think about if I can endure when I am in blue and want to go home. Yes, he knows me much. In this soso program, I alwsys feel depressed and go home asking relief from him.

I am thinking that since 你们本来就是分开的, I'd like to take more time to get into that top program.

And, to be honest, my major is easier to find a job than my husband's.