我怎么知道为啥？但是从楼主简单描述，她也不太了解孩子，孩子也没说， 娃爹更指望不上。

堕落的和自律的都可能患抑郁症啊。楼主家娃也就是散漫不用功、得过且过混日子， 也没有“堕落”啊。

家长千万不能有”孩子堕落了”这种想法或者评价 ， 每天常说的应该是”we are always here with you. Let me know what we can do for you. Love you and we trust you , young man, but for this case, let’s see if we could try it in this way , how about ….”