Relationship skills are vital life skills and should be mindfully practiced. 我觉得很多父母还没有特别关注过这一点，但是它不仅对恋爱有用，对友谊，处理工作关系以及和父母的关系都非常有用。

就这件事来说，你只谈了你的想法和担心。你和你女儿讨论过她对dating这件事是怎么看的吗？ does it concern her? If so, what are her concerns? What are her plans? Is she comfortable talking to you about this topic? Etc etc 。 这种open communication, active listening 就是非常重要的relationship skill 之一。你可以lead by example， groom her skills and help her get ready. 没有好的relationship skills, 对的人来了也容易搞砸。