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Huaren
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How to forget a person

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2005-08-08 23:24:00

When you really hate a person, and you cannot simply "don't mind him/her", how would u do to forget this person. More hatrend, less possible to get away from this person. But suppose you are really really angry, frustrated, hurted deeply by this person...

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boxxbear

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2005-08-08 23:32:00

嗯,尽量避免能够让你想起他/她的事物。


并且相信,时间能让一切都淡忘的。


如果你一个人做不到这一切,让时间来帮你的忙。


还有一个办法,多来闲话灌水,大家会开导你的,然后你就会忘记那些不开心的事情啦。

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2005-08-08 23:43:00

以下是引用boxxbear在2005-8-8 23:32:00的发言:

嗯,尽量避免能够让你想起他/她的事物。


并且相信,时间能让一切都淡忘的。


如果你一个人做不到这一切,让时间来帮你的忙。


还有一个办法,多来闲话灌水,大家会开导你的,然后你就会忘记那些不开心的事情啦。



Exactly. I believe time can cure it too.


The bad thing is when u cannot help thinking about that persons' wrong-doing and also the other side of the stories, the person even has more control over u. Don't know how long it would take...

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boxxbear

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2005-08-09 00:01:00

以下是引用noerror在2005-8-8 23:43:00的发言:



Exactly. I believe time can cure it too.


The bad thing is when u cannot help thinking about that persons' wrong-doing and also the other side of the stories, the person even has more control over u. Don't know how long it would take...


可能每个人都遇到这样的人,就像是一个克星一样。

不过人最大的敌人就是自己,所以忘记其它的人不会比战胜自己更困难。

如果你总是想起那些不开心的事情,找点别的事情,来占据你的大脑里的空间吧。

开心一点。

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2005-08-09 10:05:00

哦. 这是心理学上的一个典例了. 忘掉一个人的第一步就是原谅他的一切过错. 实际上, 你对他的怨恨是唯一的使他在你生活中存在的原因. 为了你自己, 原谅他. 做到之后, 你会发现自己连他长什么样都会记不得了. :)
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2005-08-09 10:26:00

hatred makes you mind him forever
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2005-08-09 10:30:00

以下是引用laurell_h在2005-8-9 10:05:00的发言:
哦. 这是心理学上的一个典例了. 忘掉一个人的第一步就是原谅他的一切过错. 实际上, 你对他的怨恨是唯一的使他在你生活中存在的原因. 为了你自己, 原谅他. 做到之后, 你会发现自己连他长什么样都会记不得了. :)


Agree! You can not just push it to the back of your mind and hoping never to remember, because it will comeup again and again. If you face it, express your anger and eventually found forgiveness is the only way to let it go.
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veneer

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2005-08-09 10:47:00

stop tossing about how to forget him is the best way to forget him lah.


i once hated a pig-head so strongly that I wanted to cut this pig-head off and throw it into the mouth of a shark seriously infected with some deadly bacteria; after a while, i started feeling this pig doesn't worth so much of my emotion; then after another while, i stoped thinking about whether i should revenge or let it go; now, i still remember once upon a time there was an unpleasant pig-head, but i can barely recall its name or why it made me upset. hoho...


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2005-08-09 13:00:00

how to understand forgiveness? Take what the person did as it is, or ???
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boxxbear

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2005-08-09 14:13:00

以下是引用noerror在2005-8-9 13:00:00的发言:
how to understand forgiveness? Take what the person did as it is, or ???

其实原谅他人更多的是为了帮助自己。

如果你不原谅别人也可以开心的话,那么没必要原谅。

为了自己的开心,去原谅,去淡忘一切伤害。

呵呵,其实我自己也不信我说的这些,

不过我始终相信时间的能力。

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